Domestic Service Submission Beyond Basics - The Heart of Negotiation

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How to Offer, Accept, Request and Decline Service

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Title: Domestic Service Submission - Beyond Basics - The Heart of Negotiation, How to Offer, Accept, Request and Decline Service

When: November 1st, 2020 2 PM Eastern Standard Time (US and Canada)

Type: Lecture

Level: All Levels

Cost: $20 CAD, sliding fee scale available - no one left out for lack of funds


Beyond the basics of service, we will be discussing four important actions in regards to service:

  • Offering Service
  • Accepting Service
  • Requesting Service
  • Declining Service

- all of which are the basis for negotiation or negotiating a service scene. Have you ever been offered a service, and wasn't certain of the proper way to just say "No"? Has a service ever been requested of you, and you worried about refusing?

As a participant, regardless of which side of the slash you may reside (or having no position choice at all), you will walk away with some tips, tricks, and tools for your virtual toolbox, to competently recognise and handle each of these scenarios.

Whether you are a D-type (let’s not forget, service Topping is a very valid thing too) or an s-type, so long as you have a passion for service, or at least a mild curiousity, this is indeed a workshop/talk/presentation for you.


UnrulyNerdGirl (she/her or he/him)

Canadian, technically Ausnadian after living for four years Down Under, domestic service (aka luxury lifestyle) submissive to the rich and famous and little - service little, cheeky bear, errant evil scout, fervent axe thrower, maker of things, BDSM taxonomist, co-creator of a BDSM board game, and writer/published author.

Entered the BDSM community and lifestyle in her early twenties, and hasn't looked back since. Whether it is a day spent at an estate sale scoping out silverware, or acquiring a new skill for the service tool chest, this little bear makes the most of each day, and is thoroughly tuckered out when curling up next to a mound of stuffies at bed time. Active in local, national, and international BDSM communities as a moderator for various online activities, as one third of the triptych that organizes a local Ottawa munch, and as an educator.

Loves tacos, hot dogs, crafts, Minecraft, going to the gym, powerlifting, pinball, arcades, movie theatres, naps, drag queens, and Lego.


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KNOW YOUR OWN RISK PROFILE - Please take whatever precautions that feel right for you to conceal your identity and know you do not need to activate your camera to participate in the class.

Slides or talking points will not be available for dissemination after the presentation, so please have materials ready to jot down notes ahead of time.

This will be an online event via Zoom. Zoom information will be sent to all participants after ticket purchase. To participate, you will need download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the event. Please register your ticket with the name you intend to use on Zoom as only verified ticket holders will be welcomed into the Zoom presentation.

Please be sure to update your Zoom software to the latest version in advance of the talk.

Part of the proceeds of this talk will be donated to The Alternative - Ottawa's foremost vendor and local artisan patron, for all your power exchange lifestyle needs - to help alleviate any hardship experienced during the current pandemic.

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