$40 – $80

Honest Non Monogamy 301: Boundaries, Agreements & Navigating Complex Needs

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$40 – $80

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A somatic-informed and trauma-sensitive approach to create relationship agreements in consensual non-monogamous relationships.

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Relationship Agreements serve an important function in long-term and anchoring partnerships — they create spaces where everyone can feel honored and celebrated in their boundaries and within connection — but figuring out how to create them & sustain them in equitable and fair ways can often leave us feeling emotionally pretzled.

Many of us have tricky relationships to boundaries: we don't experience being empowered about them in our youth, and so grow up without knowing how to really recognise or know them in others either. When we've experienced challenges in either asserting them or having them honored, our boundaries might grow walls, becoming fortresses that impede out relationships. This is a natural response to hurt and loss of trust. It takes great care, tenderness, kindness, dedication, and love to safely undo these fortresses.

A healthy boundary has the strength of a tree: deeply rooted in what is nourishing, strong and stable, yet doesn't break when the wind blows. It can dance with the seasons and weather thru the storms.

Developing healthy boundaries is about becoming attuned to the deepest truth of our felt experience, and increasing our capacity for resilience and gracefulness when those storms arise. From a foundation of health boundaries, we can build stronger, liberating relationship agreements.

In this workshop, we'll be exploring the felt, somatic experience of what feels good, and what doesn't feel good. We'll dive into trauma-informed ways to create agreements in relationships that allow for openness and freedom, rather than agreements that feel like limits and controls.

We'll be digging into the differences between rules and boundaries, diving into how to understand our own core needs and the needs of our partners, and we'll be exploring how slowing down can help us in creating spaces of relating where everyone has more possibility of feeling their needs met.

This is a space to get messy, real, and honest about what you want. You'll get to ask your questions, meet other folks exploring non-monogamy, hear new perspectives, and come away with clear tools and frameworks to help you explore open relationships in healthy, trauma-sensitive ways.

💫 Sliding scale rates available (prices in CAD$)


💌 Got questions? send me a dm.

This workshop will be held online, and will be interactive, featuring breakout discussions and a 15 min break.


Accessibility Information:

Accessibility is important, and it matters a LOT to me.

I'm currently updating myself on the new accessibility features for Zoom, and hope to be able to implement closed captioning for this workshop. If you have specific accessibility needs that impact your ability to participate in online workshops, please send me an email melinacassidy@gmail.com so I can work to make sure your needs can be accomodated. Thank you so much.


Mel Cassidy is a relationship coach and sex-positive nerd who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied, authentic open relationships. Mel is certified in Counselling for Intimacy and Relationships, Holistic Peer Counselling, and is a ZEGG Forum facilitator. They are a student of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sexology and pursue studies focused on trauma-informed approaches to the mind-body relationship. Creator of The Monogamy Detox online program, they are dedicated to creating trauma-sensitive spaces where all beings can flourish.

With over two decades of experience teaching and facilitating in groups small and large, Mel has a reputation for innovation, novelty, and both thinking and living outside the box.

Mel is queer, and lives, loves, and dances on the traditional and unceded territories of the K'ómoks Nation in British Columbia, Canada.

Follow Mel on Facebook/Instagram/Twitter @radicalrelating



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